Change is the only constant in the universe. Everything is in a state of perpetual motion, from the microcosmic to the macrocosmic level. We may not always be aware of these changes as we are a part of this ecosystem and move with it. However, when left to chance, change can be disruptive and problematic.
The good news is that you can take control of change by utilizing the power of your mind. By doing so, you can generate and control change step by step, leading your life the way you choose.
Conscious change begins with a choice, a decision to create a better and more successful life. It is impossible to achieve this without utilizing the power of your mind. In the following lines, we present ten different strategies for creating the desired change. The first five focus on personal change, while the latter five provide suggestions for helping others achieve their desired changes.
1.Self-Affirmations: Opening the Mind
Often, when someone gives us unsolicited advice, we become defensive and justify our current behavior. However, when the advice comes from ourselves, we are more open to receiving affirmations and ideas. One simple exercise is to express what is important to us, whether it’s related to family, work, hobby, or sport. These self-affirmations can pave the way for desired changes.
2. Growth Mindset: Believing in Change
Believing that change is possible is crucial for personal growth and development. Studies have found that individuals who have a growth mindset, and believe that people can change, cope better with difficulties and experience less stress and anxiety. They also have better physical well-being and higher self-esteem.
3. Can Personality Change?
For many years, psychologists believed that human personality is fixed and does not change. However, recent studies suggest that personality continues to change throughout life, even after the age of 30. In fact, the depth of personality changes over two years is equivalent to changes in other demographic variables such as marital status, occupational status, and income.
4. Say “STOP!” Plain and Simple
Here’s some surprising information for you: according to a study conducted by the University of Regensburg in Germany, it’s possible to “forget” lifelong habits. They concluded that simply telling yourself to forget a habit immediately after forming it can help eradicate it.
Out of all the modalities I’ve come across, self-hypnosis has proven to be the fastest and most effective way to bring about change in my life. The difference between self-hypnosis and self-affirmations is that it uses a certain state of mind that allows ideas of change to penetrate deep into the subconscious mind and settle at the deepest level.
So far, we’ve discussed small actions you can take to help achieve the change you want. Now, let’s continue with some information on how you can help someone else change.
6. Desire for Change
Change is a process, and it is essential when helping someone. The saying goes, “help is not done by force.” Therefore, it is crucial that the person is open to the possibility of change.
One of the first questions I ask when working with someone is, “Do you believe you can get what you want? Can you make the change?”
If the answer is no, I do not proceed further but continue to encourage and help them believe that even a small change is possible. Once they have reached that point, it is like putting your foot in the door.
As mentioned earlier, people tend to be very defensive and immediately start defending themselves when you talk to them about their mental, speech, or behavioral habits. It is important to understand that these habits have been ingrained over many years and may take time to change.
Therefore, it is important to be forgiving and patient. Remember that you are a friend who is interested in their well-being and accepts them as they are. It helps individuals become more aware of themselves. The foundation of a habit is that it is unconscious, and people often do it automatically and repeatedly without realizing it.
Thus, an essential step in changing a habit is to identify the situations in which it manifests itself. Once identified, one can gradually take control of them step by step.
7.Helping Them Convince Themselves
Changing someone’s mind can be just as challenging as changing their behavior. This is because change must come from within, as the saying goes, “when the egg is broken from the outside, life ends; when it is broken from within, life begins.”
Therefore, it is crucial to help individuals engage in self-reflection and even ask themselves questions about their beliefs and habits. An interesting study reveals that people are more likely to be convinced by information they have presented to themselves rather than information they have heard passively from someone else.
This suggests that it is easier for us to convince ourselves when we take a stand, even if it does not align with our current beliefs. This has been demonstrated in individuals who smoke, as they are more likely to quit smoking when they are given a presentation about the harmful effects of smoking rather than passively listening to such a presentation.
8. The Confirmation Bias
One of the most significant and challenging obstacles to change is the confirmation bias. This refers to our tendency to seek information that confirms our existing beliefs while disregarding information that contradicts them.
Overcoming this bias is difficult because it is innate to human nature. To combat it, one must generate new hypotheses and attempt to apply them, even if they initially seem foreign. While it can be unpleasant to realize that we have been deceived or misled, ignoring it is an even greater error.
Therefore, it is crucial to question all information, regardless of its credibility. This applies to this article as well. When attempting to help someone change, it is essential to highlight points that do not align with their beliefs and draw their attention to overlooked elements.
9. Changing Thinking Patterns
Merely telling someone they are wrong is not enough to induce change. In fact, it may lead to resistance and hostility. Instead, it is vital to offer alternatives and focus on positive aspects rather than negative ones.
For instance, if someone is hammering nails improperly, it is more beneficial to demonstrate the proper technique rather than criticizing their current approach. When giving advice, provide concise alternatives and present them from various angles.
In summary, inducing change requires emphasizing positive aspects, providing alternatives, and presenting them from different perspectives.
Just as self-hypnosis is the fastest way to personal transformation, hypnosis (hetero-hypnosis) is the most direct way to help someone achieve the desired change. Hypnosis, like self-hypnosis, allows communication with the subconscious mind, the command center of the being and its mind! Thus, using hypnosis, the change occurs instantly and is, in most cases, permanent.
As you can see, nothing can stop you from making the change you want, as long as you are determined to do it! It all starts with you! Just as an old Greek saying says, You are the Alpha and the Omega!
Nothing can be achieved in your life without your will! When changes occur in you “without your will” it is because at some level of your being you have chosen not to choose, you have decided not to decide, you have preferred to ignore or abstain or stay.
But when you use the Power of Mind and Decide the direction of your life, no matter how adverse the conditions, you will begin to take steady steps towards achieving that change.
Maybe sometimes you’ll feel like nothing is changing, maybe you’ll feel like you’re going backwards, maybe you’ll feel like the change is too little.
Whatever you do, DON’T STOP!
This reminds me of one of my mottos in life:
You lost, keep going! You won, keep going!
So whatever you do, keep going! Remember, in this universe there is no stagnation but continuous movement and change. Either go forward or back! But you never stand still. It’s impossible!
Choose to have a life the way you want it and DO something about it. And you know something? It doesn’t even matter what or how much you do! What matters is DOING!
So what are you going to do with your life? Do you leave it alone and be blown away by random winds or do you give it a direction and move towards your greatness?
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